I think too much by PetitCollin Christel

Author:PetitCollin Christel
Language: fra
Format: epub
Publisher: Guy Trédaniel Éditeur
Published: 2019-10-15T00:00:00+00:00

From swimsuit syndrome to Stockholm syndrome

The Stockholm syndrome is a mental mechanism which we discovered as a minor news item, concerning a group of people having been taken hostage in a bank in Stockholm. At the end of their six-day ordeal, the hostages had become the most fervent supporters of their kidnappers’ cause. Intense stress causes the loss of critical faculty and the victims, in fact, modelled their logic on their aggressors. It is also because of stress that this paradoxical mechanism of the Stockholm syndrome can be found in numerous cases of mistreatment. When it comes to overefficiency, the fear of rejection, adult criticisms and children’s mockeries can be assimilated to psychological violence. Even if it is just micro-aggressions, the stress which ensues from it can create a Stockholm syndrome. This Stockholm syndrome can explain why many mental overefficients remain in a permanent state of thought-reading, always trying to satisfy their interlocutors, joining all the causes after a couple of sentences and are because of this fact incapable of opposing anybody. The fear of abandonment and rejection makes them very influenceable, thus extremely vulnerable to mental manipulation.

Restricting his false self and finding his true self gives a sense of safety, peace and serenity. It is what you are doing as you read these words.

Little by little, you will reconcile with the wonderful person you truly are and give him back his right to express himself freely. Here is a small key, quite a simple sentence really, that can restore the existence of your true self. Instead of saying : ‘Yes, all right.’, say : ‘I‘m afraid that won’t work for me !’ Try this sentence, it is powerful.

‘Please, can you fetch my swimsuit ?’ Your turn…

Your true self will become healthy again once you are sure that the feelings and desires you experience genuinely belong to you. To be cured of this latent depression, one must free the forbidden and repressed emotions and find spontaneity. It is by listening to ourselves that the human being finds his internal strength and self-respect. You have the right to be sad, desperate or to need help without being afraid of bothering somebody. It is normal to be frightened when we are threatened, to get angry in front of lack of respect, to be sad when we are misunderstood. Little by little, you will know again what you do not want, then, what you want. After, you will allow yourself to express your thoughts freely without fear of being rejected. Only the child needs unconditional love to build himself. The adult can live without. You do not need to please everybody anymore to stay alive.

We escape depression when the feeling of one’s value takes root in the authenticity of the feelings which we experience and not in the ownership of this or that quality. You do not have to prove your value. You are complete in your imperfection. Be content with being yourself. The day you do, your identity void will be filled.

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